One of the worst things to experience is a feeling of betrayal and hurtfulness. I personally do not enjoy experiencing either, but I feel that it is more common then I hope it to be. I also do not like to see my loved ones hurt or betrayed by others, especially when it becomes an ongoing occurrence. No one deserves to feel down on themselves because of what others say or do, but as much as one tries to avoid it, sometimes the situation is inescapable.
An uncontrollable situation is hard to cope with because you think of millions of ways on how you could have done something different. Unfortunately, there will never be an outcome as to how it could have all been changed. Seeing someone close to you lose a loved one is hard to swallow, but it becomes even harder to watch the hurtfulness within them. Sometimes we feel that what we say or do is not enough, but we don’t realize that just being there is enough in its self.
I’ve also seen scenarios where one continues to go back to the ones who hurt them the most. I do not feel a sense of sympathy for these individuals because they are allowing it to continuously happen. It becomes a burden within them, but they need to learn how to free themselves from it all. In most cases it deals with the issue of love, and I believe love is a strong word, but you cannot always help who you love. Often, we don’t realize that for every one person who hurts or betrays us, there will be someone else who will help and love, no matter the circumstances.
Betrayal becomes an issue of distrust, and I feel that without trust no good can come. Trust is something to begin a relationship with. If this is the case, then why do we see so many people hurt everyday? Is it a part of human nature, or are we just hurtful people all around?
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I love this entry of yours, because I completely agree with everything you say. The last part is what holds especially true with me. I feel like trust is one of the most important things to me, because like you said, “without trust no good can come.” I 100% agree, no trust means troubles. Someone recently told me that they weren’t telling me somethings in a situation among mutual friends because they “didn’t trust me not to tell her.” I was completely offended and appauled that the person told me that, because it was one of my best friends, and I have never been anything but loyal and trustworthy to him. When I told him how offended I was and hurt that he didn’t trust me, we talked about it and he realized he has no reason not to trust me with anything, but I couldn’t help but feel uneasy on whether I should be trusting him or not now.
Not being able to trust someone is a horrible feeling, and so much hurt comes from the issue to many people. I would like to think that people aren’t hurtful people all around, but with some people, you just can’t help but question if they truely are just a hurtful person. It almost seems as if sometimes, people get pleasure for seeing the hurt in someone else. It’s sad really. However, hurting people as part of human nature is not very reassuring either.
You really nailed everything in this entry!
Kaeleigh – - Its good to see that other people are in the same boat as me. I am a huge believer in trust and do feel that without it a relationship cannot be built. In the situation you shared about a friend is sometimes ever harder to deal with because you put your trust in someone and they pull it out from under you. Its not a good feeling to go through. I hope things worked out for the best between you and your friend!
As for one taking pleasure out of hurting others is sad but completely true. We see it happen far too often and there is only so much that can be said to the one being hurt because after awhile they begin to believe they deserve it. No one deserves to hurt, but its almost unavoidable.
I’m really glad you enjoyed this entry!