We have incorporated judgment into our everyday lives. It’s not something that an individual chooses, but has become second nature to us. We judge based on looks, appearance, first time encounters, word of mouth, and even by association through others. Why are we the first to criticize when our own insecurities make us feel judged by others?
Too often, physical appearance has been greatly emphasized through the media, and has taken a negative toll on individual’s lives. We are all guilty of judging how someone else looks through the public eye, but why do we criticize others? Does it deal with flaws we personally have, or does it make us feel better about ourselves? Young children of today are growing up in a society where comparisons are constantly made. We compare ourselves to the perfect image, but who’s to say what the perfect image is. Young girls are growing up too fast and looking older then their actual age. Has the fun of childhood been replaced with a judgmental society?
We also judge a person based on their friends. If a friend is disgruntled towards an individual, it almost becomes an obligation for others of that particular friend to have negative indications as well. I was always taught to never judge a book by its cover, but the reality of it boils down to peer pressure. It’s not direct, but almost an obligation to your friend in order to prove your loyalty. However, true friends accept you for who you are, not who they want you to be, but if this were true then why are we afraid that they may criticize us for the friendship choices we make?
If we want to feel accepted and comfortable within ourselves, then we need to start treating others the way we want to be treated. I am just as guilty as the next person to know that I make everyday judgments, but I also know that being aware of what I do can help me change my criticisms, both about myself and others.
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I really agree with your posting. Its really sad that people feel like they need to do certain things, wear certain brands, be a certain weight, etc. I think a lot of people struggle with getting over the fact that you just need to be yourself and not worry about your appearance all the time and what other people think. I don’t base my friends on looks, or what they wear I base it on how they treat me and what our interests are.
I think its totally true about younger girls looking older than they should. A little funny story for ya, My mom works at an Elementary school and took her class to an assembly in the gym. She saw a little 3rd grader’s thong sticking out of her jeans! 3RD GRADE! Its rediculous!!! hahaha
I really like your blog. Its really good to hear that there are still good people out there like you!
Jackie – - I am definatelty on the same page as you with appearance. You do need to just be yourself and not worry about what others think because you only learn who your true friends are by being you.
That is terrible that 3rd graders wear thongs! Its funny how fast children grow up today because I think in HS thongs were becoming more known. Either that or I was not aware during middle school or younger!
Haha I know isn’t that funny? Kind of sad but true. I like how your blog is turning out. Keep up the good work! : )